Our job as Group leaders is to create an environment in which people can connect with each other. If your Group members have already met and are comfortable with one another, you may not have to do much more than provide a comfortable atmosphere for good, open conversation. If your Group is meeting for the first time, you may want to use some icebreakers to help people ease into conversation.
Using icebreakers is an essential Group leader skill. Begin with light and informational questions before you move to deeper and more personal levels as the group gets to know each other.
Keep in mind that, even if your Group has met several times, any new person feels like a complete outsider. Bring in a Level 1 question at the beginning of the meeting for everyone to answer. This will help the new person know the rest of the Group better, feel a bit more at ease, and more open to conversation as the meeting progresses.
Remember, do not ever force someone to answer questions or participate. Allow people to feel safe opening up at their own pace.
You can use these questions as a Group, or with your family or friends. Use them to build relationships in any situation! Learning about one another like this will often form deeper relationships and help you learn more about your Group members than sermon or study questions. People like to talk about themselves, and they often feel safer talking about their own lives than Scripture, Jesus, or spiritual things.
If you would like more questions, download the Questions In A Box app. They break questions down into four levels of relationship. You can also google “Icebreakers” or “Would You Rather questions” and find a plethora of questions of all types to get conversations started.
Level 1: Information (What you know)
• What is your favorite movie? Why?
• What is your favorite city? Why?
• What day of your life would you most like to relive? Why?
• What does your name mean? Why were you named that?
• If your house were on fire, what three items (not people) would you try to save?
• What was the best gift you ever received as a child?
• If you suddenly lost your eyesight, what would be the thing that you would miss seeing the most?
• What was your first job? What do you remember most about it?
• Tell the Group a brief story from your wedding day.
• If you could go to college (again), what would you study?
• You have been given a one-year sabbatical from work. What will you do?
• What is one of the greatest adventures you have ever been on?
Level 2: Opinion (What you think)
• Who is one of your heroes? Why?
• Who is your number one advisor in life? Why?
• My favorite way to spend time is ______.
• Just for the fun/thrill of it, before I die I’d like to ______.
• I was (or would have been) voted “most likely to ______” in high school.
• I wish someone had told me ______ before I got married.
• If you could leave the world one piece of advice before you died, what would you say?
• Who was one of the most interesting people you or your family ever entertained?
• Who was the best boss you ever had? What made him or her so good?
• People might be surprised to find out that I ______.
• Describe a grade school teacher that made a big impression on you (for good or bad).
• Each person in the Group answer for the person on your right: “ ____, I am so glad God made you because _____.”
Level 3: Feelings (Who you are)
• What is your greatest fear?
• What do you miss most about childhood?
• I am most like my mom/dad when I ______.
• One of my biggest pet peeves is ______.
• When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
• What do you want to be remembered for?
• An emotion I often feel but don’t usually express is ______.
• Where do you go or what do you do when life gets too heavy for you? Why?
• In what area of your life would you like to have greater peace? Why?
• How do you feel about your future? Why do you feel that way?
• In general, I worry too much about ______.